What is love.
When have you last heard someone say - I do love him/her it's just that I'm not "in love" with him/her!
What does this mean? A friend said this to me recently about a guy she has been seeing for some time. She argued that although, she does love him, and really wants the best for him, she does not spend her day wishing she was with him and getting really excited about meeting up with him.
Well my view on this is that when we are teenagers and in our early 20's we start seeing someone and we become totally infatuated with them - can't eat, can't sleep, can't wait to see them - and we call this "being madly in love" - but this is always short lived and is also so much better in memory than it ever was in reality.
Then we add a few years, a few knocks, a few disaster relationships and a few heartbreaks and finally we meet with someone that we really get on with.
We thoroughly enjoy their company, we fit well with each-other - same values, same general outlook on life and slowly as we get to know them we grow to love them more and more. This to me is true love - not the "madly in love" version. So if you love someone be grateful that you're not "in love" with them and let the partnership flourish!
I'd love to hear your opinions on this subject so let me know what you think.
In the mean time ... Happy Dating!
Jill
MaybeFriends.com
What does this mean? A friend said this to me recently about a guy she has been seeing for some time. She argued that although, she does love him, and really wants the best for him, she does not spend her day wishing she was with him and getting really excited about meeting up with him.
Well my view on this is that when we are teenagers and in our early 20's we start seeing someone and we become totally infatuated with them - can't eat, can't sleep, can't wait to see them - and we call this "being madly in love" - but this is always short lived and is also so much better in memory than it ever was in reality.
Then we add a few years, a few knocks, a few disaster relationships and a few heartbreaks and finally we meet with someone that we really get on with.
We thoroughly enjoy their company, we fit well with each-other - same values, same general outlook on life and slowly as we get to know them we grow to love them more and more. This to me is true love - not the "madly in love" version. So if you love someone be grateful that you're not "in love" with them and let the partnership flourish!
I'd love to hear your opinions on this subject so let me know what you think.
In the mean time ... Happy Dating!
Jill
MaybeFriends.com
posted by MaybeFriends.com at
03:26
1 Comments:
Bravo, Jill! This is a great post.
I'm totally with you on this: "Finally we meet with someone that we get on really well with. We thoroughly enjoy their company, we fit well with each other - same values, same general outlook on life and slowly as we get to know them we grow to love them more and more."
Dating experience is a big factor in reaching this milestone. Not everyone you meet will be in this place. Time and trust are also needed for both compatible parties to open up and really talk to each other. Trust takes time to build on both sides and has to be actively developed to work fully.
Only then, can both parties start moving towards real love in its unconditional and sustainable form.
Bottom line: if you believe a new romance has potential to last the course, give it every chance you can, before calling time on it.
Coppertop (MBF username)
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