A general view of online dating and in particular Irish dating online.

When have you last heard someone say - I do love him/her it's just that I'm not "in love" with him/her!

What does this mean? A friend said this to me recently about a guy she has been seeing for some time. She argued that although, she does love him, and really wants the best for him, she does not spend her day wishing she was with him and getting really excited about meeting up with him.

Well my view on this is that when we are teenagers and in our early 20's we start seeing someone and we become totally infatuated with them - can't eat, can't sleep, can't wait to see them - and we call this "being madly in love" - but this is always short lived and is also so much better in memory than it ever was in reality.

Then we add a few years, a few knocks, a few disaster relationships and a few heartbreaks and finally we meet with someone that we really get on with.

We thoroughly enjoy their company, we fit well with each-other - same values, same general outlook on life and slowly as we get to know them we grow to love them more and more. This to me is true love - not the "madly in love" version. So if you love someone be grateful that you're not "in love" with them and let the partnership flourish!

I'd love to hear your opinions on this subject so let me know what you think.
In the mean time ... Happy Dating!

Jill
MaybeFriends.com

Labels: love. In love. Seeing someone. Dating.