A general view of online dating and in particular Irish dating online.

Today we launched our Maybefriends.com Street Team.

Pictured right are Leah and JP earlier this afternoon on Grafton St. Be sure to say hello to them if you see them out and about at all the best places over the coming months.

Labels: Irish online dating Street Team.

I know plenty of people have harped on about this before but why did the slow set leave us and can we please, please, please have it back. Surely there is a demand for it from the teeny boppers right up to the pensioners (After all everyone likes a good snog!). And it's not like we don't have the music for it there are tonnes of slow songs in the charts every week that would fit very well into the clubs and pubs of today. The pub scene needs to get a bit more romantic, make some room on the floor and get people dancing. I'm sure there are places that do have slow sets and if you know of any share them with us. Let us know you thoughts on this - should we be starting a campaign to bring back the slow sets?
I look forward to you comments on this and remember the best comment of the week wins a month free membership on Maybefriends.com - The Home of Irish Dating.

Labels: Irish online dating - slow sets

It's never easy to chat someone up - what do you say without it sounding corny? How do you react when someone uses a corny chat up line on you?
My eldest son is 14 and was recently asked by his grandfather if there were any nice girls around - he said yes there were plenty but he hadn't spoken to any of them as he didn't know what to say. My Dad suggested he walk up to the best looking one and simply ask "is your name Helen? Because you look really like Helen" I thought this was brilliant - it's not really an obvious chat up line but it certainly gets a conversation going - unless of course her name is Helen in which case he would have really had to think fast to talk his way out of that one!
If you have any really good suggestions for chat up lines or know of any really corny ones please let us know. Remember the best comment of the week wins a month's free membership on Maybefriends.com - the Home of Irish Dating.

Labels: Irish online dating - chat up lines

When you start messageing someone it can, like any form of communication, take time for you both to be on the same wavelenght and to understand eachother. These early days of messaging are a time to cultivate a true friendship that can be the foundation of something much stronger as time goes on so put effort in to those first few emails they could be the start of something really special and deserve good attention. Let me know your thoughts on this - do you agree, or disagree, do you prefer to send lots of bland messages hoping someone will reply or do you put effort into each and every message you send?
I look foward to reading your comments on this and remember - the best comment of the week wins a months free membership to Maybefriends.com - the Home of Irish Dating

Labels: Irish online dating - messages 2

I was just thinking today, how strange it is, that, if you are really good friends with someone and then, for what ever reason, you don't see each other for ages, it is really hard to pick up where you left off. With people that you see once or twice a week you have lots to talk about, but people you see once or twice a year can sometimes be really hard work no matter how good a friend they are.
I don't think this has to do with compatibility or preferences. You don't necessarily have to consider people that you talk with every day as "friends" they can be more "acquaintances" but you will still have lots to say to them because you talked to them yesterday and they said they were going to the cinema last night so you then talk about the movie they saw etc.
This is what makes dating so much fun - by the time you have met someone 3 or 4 times you have tonnes to talk about - the first time might be a little strained but again, this is where the joy of online dating comes in - you start the conversation on email so by the time you meet, those awkward silences are well and truly dealt with and you have lots to say to each other - at least that's the theory anyway.
I'd love to hear your comments on this - remember the best comment of the week wins a months free membership on Maybefriends.com - the home of Irish Dating.

Labels: Irish online dating - Friendship

The results of last weeks onsite poll were unquestionable - 91% of you said you would prefer a long term relationship to a casual fling. It is heartening to see that almost everyone on the site is after the same thing.

I was talking to someone last week who made what I think is a very true observation: Lots of people get into a long term relationship when they are relatively young - late teens/early 20's, then, when they leave college and are settled in a career, wham - the relationship breaks up, and there they are - mid to late 20's flung unceremoniously into the world of dating - a world they know little or nothing about. The guys think this is the best thing ever - suddenly they are free to finally sow their wild oats - and they love it. The girls enjoy it at first but then start hearing a vague biological tick tock that builds up as time goes by and suddenly becomes the focal point in their lives, so by the time they are in their 30's the alarm bell is starting to off way too frequently. But the guys don't reach that stage of wanting something longterm for some time later than the girls and so are not always ready to commit when the girls most want them to. I think there is a certain amount of truth in this but I think that in the back of their minds guys do want a long-term relationship but just not today!
I'd love to know what you think on this subject - remember best comment of the week wins a months free membership on Maybefriends.com - the Home of Irish Dating

Labels: Irish online dating - long-term

As spring is in the air and summer approaches lots of people are thinking about their forthcoming holidays and booking their two weeks of glorious sunshine - and hoping for a fabulous holiday romance to go along with it.
What is it that makes holiday romances so fantastic? Is it because you both know it's only for a week or two so you can give it your all. Just as those first seeds of doubt about your compatibility begin to grow you can both hop on separate planes never to meet again. You more than likely go for someone totally unsuitable, just for the laugh and you both know this would never work in the real world.
Of course you've left all your pressures of home/work life behind and you are at your most relaxed with nothing to do all day but laze in the sunshine and think about where you'll go that night, so your mood is bound to be excellent for the whole time. In the words of the great Van Morrison "wouldn't it be great if it was like this all the time" - well no actually, it wouldn't. If this was normal there would be nothing exciting about it at all, it's the fact that it is only two weeks a year. That you have left your real life behind, that you don't ever have to see them again after two weeks - that's what makes it special and fun.
I look forward to reading your comments on this - do share some of your holiday romance experiences with us. - Best comment of the week wins a months free membership on Maybefriends.com - The home of Irish Dating.

Labels: Irish online dating - holiday romances.

Reading the comments over the last few days, Mr Tea brought up the fact that he "still holds doors open for women". I have to say, speaking as a woman, that there is nothing nicer than a man with manners - not over the top, falling all over you manners, but manners in a natural way. So he'll hold the door open but won't make a big deal out of it. If you're having a drink before dinner and then moving to the dinner table, he'll carry your glass for you. If it's cold he'll give you his coat, if you walk into a room/bar and there are no seats left, he'll offer you his etc. It is, in my opinion, wonderful for a man to do this.
The women, however, have to have manners too. You can't expect a man to treat you in this way if you don't treat him with similar respect. There is nothing worse than seeing a man hold a door open for a woman and she barges right through it without even so much as a glance at him, never mind a thank you.
The men have to tread that dodgy line between being chivilrous and being a namby pamby - a difficult one to get right - but I think it works if it is seamless and if the man doesn't try to draw attention to his gallant ways.
I look foward to your comments on this one. Best comment of the week, as always, wins a months free membership on Maybefriends.com - the Home of Irish Dating.

Look at the email I got today.......

Hi MaybeFriends

Just wanted to let you know that I met the man of my dreams through MaybeFriends. I had been single for a while going from one disastrous relationship to another. A guy in work recommended MaybeFriends to me. He had another friend who had met someone through the site and I knew someone else who had 2 other friends who had met people through the site. I was very sceptical about it, afraid I'd meet pervie weirdos, but I was pleasantly surprised. I joined at the end of January 2007 and I got talking to a couple of guys but only met one and he turned out to be the one. I was Josie on the site and he was TIM4U. We met for our first date on 18th February 2007 and we got engaged on Christmas Day 2007. We're getting married on 11th September 2008. He is just brilliant and the longer I know him, the better I know him, the more I love him. I feel extremely lucky to have met him. I have an 8 year old daughter from a runaway Dad and she gets on fantastically with my fiance and vice versa. As soon as we got engaged she wanted to call him Daddy. There was a day in school she came running to the father of one of her friends in school and she asked him if he'd heard what surprise she got for Christmas. He was expecting her to say a Nintendo DS or something like that. But she said that she got a Daddy. So we're all bursting with happiness. Thanks to MaybeFriends. If anyone is unsure about whether to try MaybeFriends or not, go for it!!!! You've nothing to lose and so much to gain. It's worth it. Well it certainly was for me.

Thanks again MaybeFriends.

Josie & TIM4U

Isn't that fantastic.
I look forward to reading your comments. Best comment of the week wins a months free membership on Maybefriends.com - the Home of Irish Dating

Labels: Irish online dating Success Story

Last week's poll results are in and 52% of you believe that after about 3 to 5 dates you are in a committed relationship. 36% believe it takes a bit longer than that - 5 to 10 dates - I can foresee some problems with that - you better make it clear that you both understand when you are in a committed relationship.
This week the poll is about who should pay for the first date - probably a fairly predictable answer to that but I've been surprised before so we'll see.
I'm delighted to see how busy the blog has been over the last week - please keep it up as it is meant to spark debate.
Last weeks winner for best comment is Mr Tea but as I don't know your site name you will have to reveal your true identity to me (or at least your site one) in order to claim your prize!
We have a really busy month with events in March and many thanks to Delboy2712 and MrHazeleyes for organising them - looks like a fun month for all. Don't forget the Dublin meet and greet is on this Thursday so I look forward to seeing lots of you there.
Best comment of the week as always wins a months free membership on Maybefriends.com - the home of Irish Dating - I look forward to reading them.

Labels: Irish online dating - committed relationships