A general view of online dating and in particular Irish dating online.

I was listening to Ian Dempsey this morning when he reminded me that it is international "Flirt a Little Day" today - so now no one has any excuse. Flirting all round please.
Look at someone for that little bit longer. Ask those few personal questions when you're at a business meeting. Use a really cheesy chat up line - it's your obligation as a citizen of this world to flirt today of all days so go on, and enjoy it!

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Labels: Irish online dating - Flirting.

This topic came up in the chat room on Sunday and I think it's an interesting one. How do you politely tell someone that you're not interested in them?
You don't want to be rude but you also don't want to hear from them again. I always find something like this hard as I hate to hurt people's feelings and so I end up only half telling them and more often than not they just don't get it. So you need to be definite but not rude or mean - easy to say.

How about - "I'm just seeing someone at the moment but if things don't work out I'll be in contact with you" - At least this puts the ball in your court to make the next move and firmly takes it out of theirs.
Or you could go for the old reliable it's not me it's you routine but this is so transparent that it doesn't make anyone look good.
Of course it is easier to do it on an online dating website as it is written rather than said, and then you can block them so that you don't know if they are trying to contact you or not!

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Labels: Irish Online dating - No thanks.

Yesterday I got an email which just made my day!
In order to keep our database as fresh and up to date as possible, we send people an email if they haven't logged on for 6 months to ask them to log on in the next day or two or we will automatically remove their profile. This is the response I got to one of those emails yesterday:

Hi Jill

I haven't been on that (maybefriends.com) since October 2005! Well apart from a nosey to see if my profile was still there. I met a wonderful man on my very first date (his second) and we are now married nearly 8 months! So I'm happy for my profile and his one to be deleted forever. Another friend of my husbands tried the site and he is about to announce his engagement to the girl he met off it. Plus the friend that encouraged me to try it is getting married this September to the person she met through the site. So I guess the reason why I'm replying to this is because it does work and I hope that lots more people get the chance to meet someone through maybefriends.com

Best wishes

Aahhh these are the things that really make my job fab!

Congratulations to Cadence for the best comment last week. This week the best comment will win a months free membership to Maybefriends.com so get typing!

Labels: irish online dating - success stories.

If you don't have a date tonight then check out The Wedding Crashers on Channel 4. It's the TV premier of the great movie where two guys gatecrash weddings in order to pick up women - did no one tell them about online dating and Maybefriends????

Don't forget best comment of the week wins a months free membership on Maybefriends.com

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Rumour has it that there a new Golden Couple in the world of celebrities. Chris Brown and Rihanna are reportedly dating.
Celebrity website MediaTakeout is reporting the two are actively dating, and it’s official! She was even photographed wearing his jacket.

I wonder if he'll be keeping her company at her up coming Irish gig in the RDS on Feb 26th

Aww - don't you just love a bit of romance

Speaking of wearing his jacket - when I was a "young one" if we were going out with a guy he used to give us his school scarf to wear - of course they always asked for it back when they broke it off, but still it was a really nice part of teenage dating - do they still do that does anyone know?

Remember the best comment this week gets a months free membership to Maybefriends.com and so far Cadence is winning by a mile!

Labels: Irish Online dating - golden couple

I'm trying to think of the best email opener when dating online.
Well for one thing don't send a copy of the same mail to everyone - I know its much easier but if you are genuinely interested in someone then you need to write specifically to them. You should point out whatever it was that caught your attention in the first place - like "hey, I see you like Jellyfish hunting, well I'm just back from world Jellyfish hunting exhibition"

Definitely be honest - you will get caught out if you pretend to be someone you're not and you want people to like you for who you are not who you think they want you to be.

The written word can be misinterpretted easier than the spoken word so it's not as easy as it may seem. Humour must be carefully written asking someone "what end of the bath do you lie in?" could be seen as a funny quirky question that shows an abstract sense of humour or could be seen as being a bit purvey! So when you're writing humour make it very clear that it is exactly that - humour.

Anymore tips on this for our members would be great so let us know what you think. The best comment this week gets a months free membership to Maybefriends.com Ireland's Greatest Dating website!!

Labels: Irish Online dating email openers

Why is it that when we make friends with someone of the same sex it is to do with the fact that we like them and generally we have something in common, but when we are searching for a date that could lead to a life long partnership we look at a whole different set of criteria?
I don't care what my friends look like, how big their bank balance is or where they were educated and, more than likely, we'll be friends for life. So why on earth do we make instant decisions on a potential partner based on these things? - it just doesn't make sense.
I think you should give everyone a chance. Don't make instant decisions on them - get to know them and then decide whether you like them or not but an informed decision is far better than a shallow one based on physical features and potential earnings. I'd love to hear your views on this and the best comment on the blog this week wins a months free membership to Maybefriends.com

Labels: dates, Irish online dating - friends

Some women appear to have it all -great job, look fab, really have their act together, but when it comes to men, they just seem to attract the very worst of the worst. Is it that they find it a challenge, or exciting? Or are they just unlucky in love? Well I trawled the net to see what others thought and there were a few theories on it some of them off the wall but others did try to make sense of this strange phenomenon. Have a look at what they had to say and give us your own theories on it http://simplyanne.wordpress.com/2006/08/09/why-do-bad-boys-want-good-girls/
http://shootthemoose.wordpress.com/2005/01/19/why-do-good-girls-like-bad-boys/

Of course sometimes it's just great fun to go out with a bad boy for a while - its not that you are ever going to make it a permanent thing its just a phase that is enjoyable and where's the harm in that?
But what to the boys think. Because maybe they are hoping that you will be the one to calm them down and change their wicked ways and all you're doing is having fun at their expense.
Let me know what you think and if you think it's more or less prevelant on dating websites? The best comment on the blog this week wins a free months membership on Maybefriends.com

Labels: bad boys, dating, good girls, Irish, Online

Just how important is that first kiss? Well for me it tells you whether or not there is chemistry there and it speaks volumes. A good kisser is vital. But research shows that men and women kiss for different reasons - men do it as a preamble to something more.... but they will also use it as a means to reconciliation - kiss and make up! Women, however, are much more divisive about it. They use it as an assessment tool to measure the relationship. Not just at the start but all the way through a relationship. So if you're going to kiss someone you better be committed to it or the women will know! One thing is for sure smoking is a huge no no for would be kissers so top up on those mints if you're a smoker hoping to get a snog this weekend!

Labels: Irish online dating - kissing

I was in the chat room last night with some really nice members and an interesting conversation arose. When using an Online Dating Site should women make the first contact with a guy? Well here in Maybefriends.com we did a survey sometime ago and over 75% of respondants said of course women should make the first contact if they want to. But as with so many things, what you think and what you do are two different things. It seems that, according to the boys, women on the site are a little shy about making the first move. So today I challenge all women on the site to contact at least one guy - and then wait and see what happens. You can let me know the results - can't wait to hear.

Labels: Irish online dating

Where is the best place to go on a first date? You could take the expensive option and go for dinner in a great restaurant, but then what happens if you don't gel - it could be a long night! Alternatively you can meet for coffee during the day - then it's easy to make it a 15 min date if things aren't going according to plan and if all goes well you can make a date for that night or the next - so the coffee idea sounds pretty good to me. But what if you are not near enough to eachother to meet for coffee? Well personally I love the cinema, you get entertained by the movie and you have lots to talk about afterwards when you go for a drink. Let me know what you think the best place to go is - I look forward to hearing about it. - Jill

Labels: Irish Online dating.