Deciding on Dates
I was talking to a friend recently who had just been on a date and decided that while he was really nice, he just wasn't for her as he was too quiet. When I related this story to a male friend he was shocked. He claimed that men had to go on three dates at least before they actually were themselves, so a woman judging them on the first date really made it difficult. This prompted my poll two weeks ago - how many dates should you go on before deciding yes or no and it I'm glad to see that in first place was 2 - with 46% of the vote but in second place was 1 with 35% and the magic 3 dates only got 12%. Maybe we should all give more people the benefit of the doubt, particularly if there is nothing really annoying about them. Chemistry doesn't always appear on the first date, it can sometimes take a little longer for the magic to work.
I look forward to reading your comments this week - remember best comment of the week wins a months free membership on Maybefriends.com - Great People, Great Friends, Great Dates.
And congratulations to sister of zorro for winning last weeks prize.
I look forward to reading your comments this week - remember best comment of the week wins a months free membership on Maybefriends.com - Great People, Great Friends, Great Dates.
And congratulations to sister of zorro for winning last weeks prize.
posted by MaybeFriends.com at
04:20
7 Comments:
Thanks for the prize, a lovely surprise! This topic is interesting because partly from hearsay and partly from anecdotal evidence it's usually the guys who decide not to take things further after one date. Maybe I've been unlucky and have only met guys from the 13% (the results of that poll shock me, by the way) who want to go to the max after a date. If it takes men at least three dates to drop their guard why does it take fewer than three dates for them to try and drop their trousers? It seems like a sad state of affairs to me. Or is it just the people on this site?
Another take on the whole good guy versus bad boy quandary....http://www.independent.ie/lifestyle/why-women-love-bad-boys-1421183.html
....there are whole websites devoted apparently! www.liarscheatsandbastards.com
www.whywomenlovebastards.com
but ultimately the nice guys win out in the end...so they say!!!! any thoughts? JPD
I dunno...sometimes a guy has potential and you give him a 2nd date chance...but gut instinct is usually right...you know in the first few seconds whether its a yay or a nay....they say that about interviews too! JPD
I don't think you can always decide straight off, been on a few dates in the last few weeks and half of them I knew it wouldn't work out after 1st date, whereas the others I'm planning on 2nd or 3rd to get a better idea
Sisterofzorro. did you ever think that the guys who drop their trousers on the first date or different guys to the ones that it takes 3 dates to drop their guard.
Have to agree totally.
I meet this girl off the site and I was txting and chatting on the phone and we seemed to click.
We meet up last week and she said that she was interested as I was too quiet and shy !
She was not prepared to give me a second chance !
How can you really judge. My gut reaction is usually after one date I know. Sometimes I go on two, but if the person isn't grabbing my attention, I am afraid to meet for a third time in case I am wasting their time and giving the wrong impression
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