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Who's Looking oftenFriends v's Dates - why do we have different criteria?
Why is it that when we make friends with someone of the same sex it is to do with the fact that we like them and generally we have something in common, but when we are searching for a date that could lead to a life long partnership we look at a whole different set of criteria?
I don't care what my friends look like, how big their bank balance is or where they were educated and, more than likely, we'll be friends for life. So why on earth do we make instant decisions on a potential partner based on these things? - it just doesn't make sense.
I think you should give everyone a chance. Don't make instant decisions on them - get to know them and then decide whether you like them or not but an informed decision is far better than a shallow one based on physical features and potential earnings. I'd love to hear your views on this and the best comment on the blog this week wins a months free membership to Maybefriends.com
I don't care what my friends look like, how big their bank balance is or where they were educated and, more than likely, we'll be friends for life. So why on earth do we make instant decisions on a potential partner based on these things? - it just doesn't make sense.
I think you should give everyone a chance. Don't make instant decisions on them - get to know them and then decide whether you like them or not but an informed decision is far better than a shallow one based on physical features and potential earnings. I'd love to hear your views on this and the best comment on the blog this week wins a months free membership to Maybefriends.com
Labels: dates, Irish online dating - friends
posted by MaybeFriends.com at
01:42
2 Comments:
I think you make a very interesting point, ideally your partner should in fact be one of your best friends. BUT, it all becomes a little sticky when you throw in chemistry! Giving everyone a chance is too simplistic a stance for something as complex as human attraction. I do think that if attraction isn't within the first couple of meetings, it's unlikely to develop. Dragging it out could end up hurting both involved.
But people shouldn't be so rigid in dating criteria either - forget about 'your type', meet the person, assess them on who they are and how they make you feel, not for what they own.... and watch out for a nice mix of lust and compatability!!
I agree with you Cadence, Chemistry has to be there, but my point is that lots of people don't even give a person a fighting chance as they judge too quickly. Two meetings should be enough but meeting with an open mind! Of course the lust and compatability is a must:-)
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